Neurodivergent-Affirming Therapy
Most sex therapy wasn't built with your brain in mind
Advice about “setting the mood” or “scheduling intimacy” can land strangely if sensory input, time-blindness, or masking are part of your everyday experience. I’m queer and neurodivergent myself, so this isn’t guesswork – it’s the actual starting point.
Not pathologised
Your neurodivergence isn't treated as the problem to fix.
Not worked around
Sensory needs and communication styles are worked with, directly.
Not one-size-fits-all
Specific to autism, ADHD and AuDHD - not a single generic label.
Autism
Autism & sex therapy
Autistic clients often bring a very particular set of themes and each one is workable, not something to mask through.
Sensory processing: Textures, touch, sound, light or smell that make sex uncomfortable, worked with, not overridden.
Literal & direct communication: Building a shared, explicit language for consent and desire instead of relying on cues that don’t land.
Special interests & stimming: where hyperfixation, routine and stimming genuinely intersect with intimacy – including in kink.
ADHD
ADHD & sex therapy
The ADHD-specific patterns that show up most often in sessions.
Dopamine & desire: Why interest in sex can be intense one week and absent the next.
Time-blindness: Why “let’s have sex tonight” keeps not happening, and it’s not about desire.
Medication & libido: Stimulant medication’s real, common impact on desire and function.
AUDHD
AUDHD & sex therapy
Autism and ADHD can pull in opposite directions inside the same person – autism’s need for predictability against ADHD’s need for novelty. AuDHD-specific sex therapy is still rare to find; it’s a dedicated focus here, including ongoing CPD training in “The Science of AuDHD” (2025). I also have AUDHD myself.
Predictability vs. novelty: Structuring intimacy to hold both needs at once, not compromise between them.
Masking and burnout: What happens to intimacy when there’s no energy left after a day of masking.
RSD meets shutdown: How rejection sensitivity and sensory shutdown combine under stress.
Getting started
Sessions, in person or online
Sessions run online across the UK, or in person in Brighton, whichever suits you better. Most people start with a free initial consultation, a low pressure way to ask questions and get a feel for whether we’re a good fit before committing to ongoing therapy.
Frequently Asked Questions
Do I need a diagnosis to book?
No formal diagnosis is required for autism, ADHD or AuDHD – self-identified neurodivergence is entirely valid here. And I totally understand just how long and inaccessible those waitlists are.
Does ADHD or being AuDHD really affect sex drive?
Yes, dopamine regulation, time-blindness, sensory processing, medication side effects and rejection sensitivity can all affect desire, arousal and how intimacy gets initiated. These are real, common patterns, not personal failings.
Can my partner come to sessions too?
Yes, see Neurodivergent Couples Therapy for mixed-neurotype and both-neurodivergent relationship support.
Is this therapy or education?
Both are available – ongoing 50-minute therapy sessions, or a one-off 90-minute directive session for practical guidance if you’re not ready for, or don’t need, ongoing therapy. There will always be education embedded into my therapy sessions.